Cock Control, JOI, Chastity – Yes, there is a Difference

By | December 5, 2017

If you search Niteflirt.com or Clips4Sale.com for ‘cock control’, you’ll find the term being used nearly interchangeably with three other terms: chastity, triggered erections, and jerk off instructions (JOI). But in my opinion, only triggered erections (through hypnotic dissociation) are true cock control. Chastity and JOI are separate activities.

Hypnotic Dissociation

I first discovered the concept of cock control in the old usenet forums. A user posted an account of a domme named Bianca who had covertly hypnotized him and conditioned him to get hard only when she wanted him to. She created a dissociated state where she could make him feel that his cock belonged more to her than to him. It responded only to her sexual control. She conditioned him to get hard and simultaneously go into a trance so that she could distract him with intense sexual arousal while covertly manipulating him further into her control. Over time and after several hypnotic sessions, She conditioned him to believe that his erections only had two purposes: One, to bring him back to her, and two, to make him susceptible to her sexual control.

This wasn’t the first time I’d read about a hypnotist creating a hypnotic dissociation to manipulate just one part of a person’s body. Stiff arm and floating arm inductions have long been common methods for inducing trance and demonstrating hypnotic suggestion. In the stiff arm induction, the hypnotist gets the subject to imagine their arm is a steel rod. It’s so stiff that they can’t bend their elbow. In the floating arm induction, the hypnotist has the subject imagine balloons tied to their arm. They picture the balloon lifting their arm, which causes the arm to rise over their heads. Both inductions create a dissociative state where the subject feels like the arm is moving (or not moving) on it’s own outside of the subject’s conscious control.

But Bianca’s story was the first time I’d read about a woman covertly (and deliberately) creating such a dissociated state with a man’s cock. In the poster’s mind, Bianca seemed to have true control over his cock. It rose up hard and insistent whenever she wanted it to. When he was alone and got hard, his erection seemed to insist that he return to her. When he was with her and she triggered his hard on, it felt like it was holding him there in her control and helping her manipulate him. She never had to touch him (although she sometimes did), and she never let him touch himself. Yet she continuously demonstrated that she could get him hard and make him cum whenever she wanted. (It wasn’t until years later that he realized that when she triggered his hard on, she also triggered him into a trance.) This was true cock control.

JOI

JOI, or jerk off instructions, are something else. Instead of creating that dissociated state, the domme tells her sub what to do. She tells him when to stroke and when not to. She tells him how fast or slow to stroke. She tells him when to hold back and when to cum.

JOI can, and often are, used to reinforce feelings of submissiveness. Masturbating on command, if done often enough, can create a psychological link between the domme’s command and the subject’s sexual pleasure. This increases their desire to submit and obey, while conditioning the submissive to respond sexually to the domme’s authority.

But even when the submissive is hypnotized, this is still behavior control, not true cock control.

Dommes often talk down to their subs while giving JOIs. They may tell him that he’s worthless, or remind him that he can’t control himself. These suggestions, of course, imply that the domme is superior to him, and reinforce the suggestion that he obey and/or worship her. But this is attitude conditioning, not cock control. (Also, it’s not that enjoyable for men who aren’t true submissives)

Chastity

Chastity is refraining from sexual activity. For some men this means preventing a man from getting hard. For others it means getting hard but refraining from masturbating or having intercourse. Chastity can be accomplished through discipline, through access denial (i.e., chastity belts etc.), or through hypnosis.

Hypnodommes often combine suggestions for chastity with suggestions for cock control or JOI. This is to suggest, or reinforce, the belief that the domme’s control is the submissive’s ONLY source of sexual pleasure.

But again, this is still behavior control, not true cock control.

Erotic Hypnosis MP3s with Cock Control

Between inraptured.com, niteflirt, and clips4sale, it’s easy to find several hundred dommes offering cock control. But creating hypnotic dissociation requires a good deal of skill. (Remember Skill is Sexy). And I found only a few hypnodommes (and only a few recordings) skillful enough to achieve this effect without JOI:

Naturally, I recommend all of Hypnotic Dreams’ femdom MP3s (since I wrote them). But the files mentioned above are specifically designed to create the hypnotic dissociation that makes you feel like the hypnotist is truly controlling your cock (and using your cock to control your mind).

Mona Blu lulls you into a lite trance with her sensual voice while suggesting that your cock is hypnotized by her overwhelming sexuality. She interweaves multiple voice tracks to create a link between the trance and being hard, conditioning your cock to get hard whenever you start to go into a trance for her. Most of her other files seem more focused on creating emotional submissive feelings. But these three MP3s are designed to create the dissociate state.

Kasha Shakti employs a more provocative style that gets you aroused first, then uses your arousal to seduce you into a trance and accept her suggestions. Although many of MP3s seemed aimed to either create the hypnotic dissociation or take advantage of it, the three files I mention above seem to be the most artfully written.

Amethyst’s and Tessa Field’s files employ direct suggestion to implant hypnotic triggers. The technique is not as erotic (to me) as mine, Mona or Kasha’s, but some men still find it effective.

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